It's all a crap shoot

I asked my friend about his love life. Single. Living in LA. He said he's living The Secret. He is putting out there what he wants and he is receiving it. Dates galore.
He lost his job last week. Pink slip on Monday. By Friday, the offers were flying at him. He's enjoying massages, drinks with friends, and in two weeks he's headed to Canada. For an interview. And a date.
How does this happen?
How do you know what to look for when you want to find your soulmate or your dream job? How do you know where to start searching?
When you suddenly find yourself alone or unemployed, where do you start to pick up the pieces? Do you start with a new resume, a support group or a stiff drink?
Does it all really come down to The Secret?